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Post by Brent on Jun 1, 2010 22:07:08 GMT -5
If anyone would actually like to refute my stance that the more emotion you put into ANYTHING (women, dog, God, DOESN'T MATTER) the more horrible you feel if that relationship is severed for whatever reason (breaking up, death, finding out your God doesn't exist DOESN'T MATTER) then be my guest. The bottom line to the bottom line of the bottom line: Emotion is a double-edged sword. It can be the greatest feeling in the world to feel wonderful emotions such as "love" and "belonging". But it can also be the source of "depression" "hate" and "sorrow". It's not about emotion.
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Post by Shiv on Jun 1, 2010 22:07:42 GMT -5
lolomg
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Post by Radiant Magnificence Alastair on Jun 1, 2010 22:10:53 GMT -5
Scott doesn't have a tilaka!
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Post by Maarten on Jun 2, 2010 10:59:33 GMT -5
If anyone would actually like to refute my stance that the more emotion you put into ANYTHING (women, dog, God, DOESN'T MATTER) the more horrible you feel if that relationship is severed for whatever reason (breaking up, death, finding out your God doesn't exist DOESN'T MATTER) then be my guest. So basically, you just suffer from fear of commitment, amirite?
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Post by Scott on Jun 2, 2010 12:22:36 GMT -5
Might as well not try if the possibility of failure exists.
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Post by Brent on Jun 2, 2010 16:07:56 GMT -5
if by not trying you mean keep the emotions in check then yes, you are correct If anyone would actually like to refute my stance that the more emotion you put into ANYTHING (women, dog, God, DOESN'T MATTER) the more horrible you feel if that relationship is severed for whatever reason (breaking up, death, finding out your God doesn't exist DOESN'T MATTER) then be my guest. So basically, you just suffer from fear of commitment, amirite? uhhh
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Post by phillip on Jun 2, 2010 19:47:20 GMT -5
Thread sucks. Will continue reading.
and/or:
I'd like to express my condolences to Ferd as his thread has been ruined.
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Post by Ferd Berfel on Jun 2, 2010 20:23:58 GMT -5
Eh, I've come to accept it as a necessary facet of board culture, I suppose.
Also, Brent, relationships aren't about emotions. Sure, emotions happen, but it's more about a mutual respect and commitment to each other. Those are things that don't just happen, they're choices that you make.
If you honestly think that relationships are all about the emotional aspect, you've got a lot to learn about relationships. True, relationships are not for everyone, but your ideas as you put them across are completely ridiculous.
Sure, it sucks being in a relationship that falls apart, but these things tend to happen. Pick yourself up, dust yourself off and stop whining about it. "Be a man", to say it in your words.
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Post by Brent on Jun 2, 2010 21:36:43 GMT -5
The whole argument was about a romantic relationship.
Get back to me when you think it's possible to have one w/o getting emotions involved.
And I'm proactive, I'm not even going to get to the point where if my relationship falls apart I'll even have to dust off at all. I think of a partner as providing needs. But most of those needs are not primary, they're more secondary.
But hey! If I get just one person on my side in any argument anywhere I feel that's good enough for me. It never happens irl (surprise, surprise).
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Post by Scott on Jun 2, 2010 23:09:13 GMT -5
Real love is far more than worth the possible pain that may occur.
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Post by Brent on Jun 3, 2010 0:10:00 GMT -5
You would say that now.
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Post by Scott on Jun 3, 2010 8:21:53 GMT -5
My mom died when I was six, and my dad would never regret having loved her. Seriously, though, Brent, you have no idea what you're talking about.
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Post by Brent on Jun 3, 2010 16:51:39 GMT -5
I live in the present and look forward to the future for happiness. To improve in facets of life.
Some people dwell in their past for memories because it makes them happy.
I don't want to be like that because the past is the past. Of course he doesn't regret loving her but I would say the best days of his life are over because he is not with her.
I do not want this scenario to happen to me but who know's what will happen. None of our lives are secure. Everyday on the road you just gotta hope some drunk piece of s**t doesn't run a light.
I'll stop before I rant too much. But basically I want my best days to be ahead of me and I hope they will continue until I die.
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Post by notavailable on Jun 3, 2010 19:09:03 GMT -5
The concept of marriage is so overrun with ideological bulls**t. What it is? Its just two people who are the closest of friends. Religious lunatics and psychological nutjobs have totally decimated this rather simple relationship with all these logistics and rules and s**t. Marriage is just an "official" way of declaring your feelings for a specific person. Its so simple and yet has become a maze with no way out. Its just you and some chick or dude kickin' it for your whole lives. Really, this isn't difficult.
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Post by Scott on Jun 3, 2010 20:02:08 GMT -5
If/when you are ready to get married, you'll hopefully understand what Ferd, davo, and I (apologies if I missed anyone) are talking about.
Brent, the best days of my dad's life are not over. He has me, and he is happily re-married with stepchildren. No one knows what the future may hold, but we do what we can for other people while we can. Marriage isn't so much about your own happiness or benefit as it is about the blessing you can be to your partner. When you put the future in God's hands, you run the risk of sorrow, sure, but, again, it's worth it.
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